Be Yourself

We always heard ppl telling us to be ourself. But sometimes we will also heard ppl telling us to adapt the environment. Does both of this contradict? I'm not sure also.

For me, I think that to be myself is very important. Sure we need to adapt environment. But what do environment means? The surrounding? So to adapt the surrounding do we need to change? Ya, certain behavior maybe need to be changed. For example if you working under a very efficiency environment, you need to do things accordingly and punctually. 

Then does adapt to environment need to change our personality? If you are a person who very stingy, but working with ppl who very generous on money, do you need to change and become generous also? Will you be happy to do so?

Everyone is unique. Everyone has his own identity, own believes, own style. But sometimes without realize we change our style to follow others. If things go well, maybe you will come out to be another person with styles and believes that you tend to follow others. If it doesn't goes well, you will lost your identity, 

Maybe I'm very stubborn or I just want to be unique badly. I tend to not follow others, even sometimes i think the others are good. I know that's not a smart way. For example, i always stick to my own way to say hi by typing 'harlo' no matter there are so many various ways nowadays, which maybe a more in trends way. Some ppl will 'adapt' to the way of 'talking' of his best friend or boss. For instance, when text messaging normally he uses 'thx', but maybe the one who text him more often was using 'tq', then he will 'adapt' to that way. For me, i think that's the lost of uniqueness. 

Well, you can say I'm too egoistic, but I just like to be myself. The unique me!

Trip to Singapore ~ Day 1

Darling has started to work in new company. Before starting the world of battle, we went for a short trip at Singapore with Avryl. Had been a long time since the last vacation we had at Phuket on year 2008.

We din actually told anyone about the trip until we confirmed everything. Cause both of the parents will think that bringing Avryl to travel so far is very troublesome. But I personally dun agree with that. However we still did a lots of preparation before the trip, like get ready her ready made food for 3 days.

We took Jetstar flight on 29/4/10, Thurs morning. Avryl was still sleepy in the morning, we din intend to wake her up but she just woke up by herself. She fall at sleep when we were going to KLIA. At the airport before depart, she look sleepy too. Luckily in the flight there was a kid sitting behind of us and played with her so she was not that bored. Of course she did made some noise during the flight, but not that terrible also. We took cab to TsingMay's house from Changi Airport.
When reached at TsingMay's house, I fed Avryl with the porridge my mum cooked night before we left. Knowing that little princess might be tired, we took nap with her. Darling and my princess slept soundly for 3 hours but I just woke up after 1 hour and hanging around the house dunno what to do. It rain heavily in the afternoon, that spoiled my plan of going to the science center, as the science center is just walking distance from the house.

After shower Avryl, we still went to Science Center since we cant figure any better place to go. It was already 4pm when we reached there and it's going to close on 6pm. We had not had lunch yet. So I was forced to had Mc D which just located at the Science Center. We hang around the Science Center for about an hour plus. I had not much idea how fun it is as I dun have any experience to compare. We still manage to watch the sound show which Avryl was considered paying attention during the show.We then went to Orchard Road planning for some shopping. Unfortunately the traffic was so jam and by the time we reached orchard already 730pm. Avryl was asleep in the cab, so we went for dinner at one of the food court. The food was not bad with reasonable price over there. When we finished our dinner, Avryl woke and i ordered porridge for her dinner. But the porridge was terrible salty. Ended up she only had milk and it was already 830pm. We shopping at Somerset but it was merely female fashions. Then we went to Cold Storage and managed to get baby yogurt for Avryl.
We took MRT back and Avryl was quite enjoy on the train. She keep 'talking' to the ppl sat beside us. Tsing May and Reuben were already home when we reached their house. Avryl was not afraid of them at all and trying to talk with them as well. Tsing May and Reuben also surprised that she not afraid of strangers.

To be continue...

Relationship? Marriage?

Had been following a thread from forum discussing on whether to end up her marriage with her registered husband. There was quite some prompt feedback from the members. After reading those comments and stories, I had my own opinion too. But just dun wish to reply in the thread, so just share it over my blog.

The girl who started the topic had registered with her husband for 4 years but not staying together. But according to her, her husband did has affair with other girls before they got registered. And there is another girl who left comment that she is having the same prob. Then there are many members commented that men are all same. I'm really wonder if men are that bad, why we still married them? I dun understand why the 2 girls still registered to the men even they knew the man had affair with other girls, more than once. If you think that men will never change the attitude of having affair with other girls, that means you already accepted it, but why still complaining?

I think most of the women are thinking that marriage can change the men they want. Beware, I'm using the word, they want, not they love. I think if you love the man, you wouldn't want to change him. If you're trying to change him, it's just getting a man that you want, a perfect man that meet all your requirements. I agree with one of the member's comment on this. Never thought of changing anyone. You can only change yourself.

Here i quote one of the example given by the forum's member. When we want to plant a flower and want the flower to face a side. Some will try to tied the plant to a side and end up it will usually dead. But some will face the flower to the sun so that the flower will grow towards the sun. Same goes to your relationship. If you want your partner to change, and you tried to force him/her to what you want him/her to be, your relation will only getting worse. But if you show your love (like sun) and when your partner can feel your love, he/she will turn to what you want easily.

Just like what i had mentioned in my previous post about unconditional love, it's really important in a long last relationship and marriage.